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So it's time! The deed is done, everyone who needs to know first knows, and I'm ready to explain what it is I was blathering about a week or so ago.
Demi and I are no longer a couple. This happened about seven weeks ago, and we took that long to get used to the idea ourselves before we were ready to tell everyone else. Not that this is anybody else's business, of course, but it has wide implications that I do want to tell you about, so there it is.
Thank you to that very, very small group of you who helped me through this process at various times over the past year. In the end, the break has been relatively smooth and pain free, all things considered. It is an amicable parting, based on the realisation that we just want different things in life,
very different things, and compromising about them involves such vast compromise that we were left holding each other back.
Demi is all about home and family and lots of pets. She is now able to pursue this - she's doing remarkably well, in fact, all around. She has a new kitten (pet no.3), and she is decorating her bedroom.
Meanwhile, you know I'm all about travel and adventure. Part of the reason I was so excited about my trip to California this time was that I was able to spend more time there, see a bit of the area, and spend time with friends. About ten years ago I had my heart set on living in New England, but since that time my friends and contacts there have dispersed and I don't feel the same connection there that I used to. Meanwhile, nowadays I have about half a million friends and acquaintances all over California, particularly in the Bay Area, and they have been assuring me how much I would love it there.
They showed me
Muir Woods, the beach, the city, the TO DIE FOR vintage shopping (where they dressed me like a fricking Barbie doll, I loved it),
Lacis for heaven's sake,
the Gaultier exhibit currently happening at the De Young (I thought of you the entire time, Jenni)... We ate Thai and pizza and home cooking and biscuits and gravy... I met new friends and got to know existing friends better... I was treated like a queen. Anybody'd think they actually
wanted me to fall in love with the place. So I obliged. And since I am no longer geographically tied to Nottingham, I plan to be back in the Bay Area in November for anything from a couple of weeks to a couple of months (not sure yet, depends on money), and I am beginning work in earnest on that Green Card.
So as you can see, once I had the courage to close one door, another great big honking door opened! Thank you so much to everyone who made my trip this time so utterly awesome, particularly
claughter713 and family, who invited me into their home and made me feel so welcome and so loved. I am incredibly excited for the future. A new chapter begins!